Amanda Wiebe

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  • Lying is very powerful

    Lying is very powerful because you can manipulate the world with your language. And you can get what you want lots of times; or escape from things you don’t want.

    So, why not lie all the time?

    One is that you can’t trust yourself if you lie. And there will be times in your life when you have no one to turn to.

    So, if you’ve stuffed yourself full of lies, you’re going to be in a crisis one day, and you’re going to have to make a decision, and you’re going to decide wrong, and you’re going to be in real trouble.
    You won’t have the clarity of mind necessary to make the proper judgment because you have filled your imagination and perception with rubbish.

  • I don’t usually read this stuff, but…

    I don’t usually read this stuff, but…

    That one you wrote that started with what Dr. Harris said, “Over the years, I’ve worked with literally thousands of people who have put their hopes, dreams and ambitions on hold because they ‘don’t have enough confidence’. And the sad thing is, this lack of confidence is not due to any fault of their own. It is certainly not because of stupidity, or laziness, or negative thinking, or a deprived childhood, or a chemical imbalance in the brain. It is simply because they do not know the rules of the confidence game.” Well, those words smacked me right in the face. And when I finished swearing, they made me read that book. Now that I’ve learned the rules, my mountain of sadness and broken promises to myself will not run the NEXT 10 years. I’ve read it 4 times. New rules. New game. Bring it!

  • Don’t you think I know that?

    Don’t pretend it’s so easy to clean up. It’s not and I ought to know. No, you haven’t heard MY story before. You see, I feel I wasn’t meant to live in a clean house. And anyway, if I clean it up, it’ll just get messy again and then I’ll feel way worse. The mess is so bad, it can never be cleaned up. And besides, everyone in my family lives in a mess. And the mess I grew up in, it means I can never live otherwise, it’s my nature and I have no control over that. The other pressures in my life are real and I can’t take time away from worrying about them to spend any time cleaning up my house. And besides, what difference would it make? I’ve always lived this way. I’ve resisted every order by my mother, my aunt, my ex-husband to change. I’ve resisted every well-meaning suggestion because I ought to know they won’t work because I won’t work ’em. Don’t you think I know that?

  • Read don’t ruminate

    Read don’t ruminate

    I read sometimes you wake up early and can’t get back to sleep just like me. You ever hear it called the Witching Hour, that time around 4:00 am? My husband’s Grandma said the Witching Hour is bad enough by itself without adding to it. It’s too early to be awake unless there’s cows to milk or babies to feed. But it is a terrible time to decide that things were bleak, because they would be at that time with or without you thinking about them, especially since you share the hour with the ghost of every other woman who has been up at the hour casting about for the strength to go on. So that’s not the time to decide the cough you have really is cancer so you should just go walk away barefoot in the snow. The time to think about your life is after you have breakfast in you and you can be at your best. Anyway that’s what she said. I don’t know why I’m telling you this only that I’ve had my share of being awake at the Witching Hour and feeling like I just wanted to sob my heart out only I didn’t want to wake the kids. Instead I started doing what you do. I get up, sneak down to the living room and curl up with a good book. The wisdom of  good writers has brought me more comfort than ruminating ever did. And I try to remember to say a prayer for those ghosts, those sisters by another mother.

  • Always good

    It’s good to find someone who doesn’t talk when they have nothing to say. I value your suggestions because you don’t just talk for the sake of it. I guess you don’t work under deadline.

  • Just a short note

    I love you! If you close your eyes and breathe and be still, you’ll know I do!

  • So why are you always being nice to people?

    So why are you always being nice to people?

    There’s a whole lot of nasty out there. My neighbor is one of ’em yet when she wrote to you to ask about putting up canned pears you just answered her all polite and quick like and she can’t help but blab it to all the neighbours. I’m tired of listening to her crow. Couldn’t you at least TRY to not be nice to people?

  • She really is a black belt

    I thought there must be an easier way to clean the smell out and she told me just what to do. And it worked, thank goodness, because I was making them keep their sports bags in the garage.